If you call yourself goth you're automatically not.

Goth is a way of life, not just a style. There's so much more to it than that. You don't need to shove it in the faces of everyone all the time. Try to go for a more sophisticated look if you truly want to represent goth. There's a tacky way to do it and a classy way to do it. You learn to dress the classy way through your own trial and error, no one can tell you straight out exactly what's right for you to wear. You need to find it in yourself. I would suggest you look into Willowtech House once their new website is running.

And, by the way, having your own look means that you don't fall under a label, such as goth.